THIS BLOG IS ABOUT:
LOVE | LUST | ROMANCE | LIES | PATIENCE | PSYCHOLOGY 
MARRIAGE | PREGNANCY | BEAUTY | SEX | PORN | HOPE 



 
WARNING: What you're about to read is based on hundreds of interviews,
surveys, books, and statistics I've assembled over the last few years. This
blog will piss a lot of you off. Why? Because a lot of you think you know
what love is. Well folks, I'm here to challenge that assumption. So get
your hate mail ready! And make sure you read everything! Enjoy! 




 
 
FUN FACT: Most women (even the most beautiful)
are not satisfied with the way they look. Many guys
(even the drop dead ugly ones) think they're God's
gift to women. 
 
TO THE LADIES: 
PLEASE stop posting pictures that look nothing like you. Take off the big
sunglasses. Stop trying to be emo. Stop changing your hair and smiling
crooked just to hide your imperfections. If you want to post a picture that
looks NOTHING like yourself, then at least post one picture that DOES
look like you. (Preferably a picture of yourself RIGHT AFTER YOU
WAKE UP IN THE MORNING!) 
 
I know you'll probably get less comments, but hey! At least you'll know
who your real friends are. =) 
 
Seriously though, I know that underneath it all, you just want to be loved and
 liked (and envied), but don't sacrifice who you REALLY are just for attention. 
 
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DRESS RESPECTABLY: 
If you decide to wear clothes showing off half your tits, and skirts showing
99 percent of your thighs, then for goodness sake, do NOT get mad when
guys approach you for the purpose of JUST sex. 
 
When us guys see you dressing skimpy, we do NOT think to ourselves:
"Hey. Check out that lovely young lady. She's exactly the kind of woman
I want to marry and take home to my mother." 
 
NO. When guys see you dressed like that,
we all ask each other the magic question:
"Would you hit that?" 

MY ADVICE: "If it's not on the menu, DON'T ADVERTISE IT." 
 
If you'd like to be treated with respect, then dress respectfully.
It's not rocket science. 

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TO THE FELLAS: 
You're not gangsta. I hate to break it to you, but REAL gangstas don't
have myspace. Stop puckering your lips for the camera to look sexy.
Stop dogging the camera like you're all hard.
That's not what REAL MEN do. 
 
REAL MEN GIVE RESPECT TO EARN RESPECT. 
REAL MEN treat women as God's creations. NOT as sex objects. 
REAL MEN stick up for those who can't stick up for themselves. 
REAL MEN don't get into fights just 'cus someone dogged them. 
REAL MEN don't get into fights 'cus of stupid rumors. 
REAL MEN fight to protect their wives and children. 
REAL MEN fight injustice.
REAL MEN fight racism! 

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So to all the MEN and WOMEN reading this:
Please, be yourselves.
Be the REAL you. Stop trying to build up this "illusion" of what you wish
people saw you as. If you constantly pretend to be something you're not,
you'll never meet REAL friends. You'll never marry a person who loves
you for the REAL you. 
 
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FUN FACT: The smartest people in the world are MEN!
The stupidest people in the world are ALSO men!
Women tend to be more balanced when it comes
to  intelligence and skills. 
 
WHY? 
Because the human brain is divided into two hemispheres (the left
hemisphere and the right hemisphere), AND while women use both
hemispheres, men tend to use ONE side more than the other. 
 
This would explain why
WOMEN ARE BETTER AT MULTI-TASKING. 
I cannot count the number of times I've seen a woman talking on her
cell phone, doing her makeup, and changing a CD...
ALL WHILE DRIVING HER CAR! 
 
MEN, ON THE OTHER HAND, THINK IN A BOX. 
If you're telling him to do something while he's watching football
(or playing Halo), he won't remember what the hell you told him.
This MIGHT seem like a bad thing, BUT being able to think
about ONE thing at a time makes him a DEEPER thinker.
Ever wonder why most philosophers are MEN? 

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Temptation 3: PORNOGRAPHY 
Hey fellas. I know most of you think "there's nothin' wrong with a little
Jenna Jameson after a hard days work", but... I disagree. 

When you're done watching porn and you've finished
"laying the smackdown" on yourself, you are left with
more than just sticky hands and wadded up kleenex. 

You are left with images BURNED into your mind. 
You can go to internet explorer and hit "CLEAR HISTORY"... 
You can locate your Limewire folders and delete all your videos... 
You can even throw out all your Playboy mags and hardcore xxx tapes... 
Regardless, the images will still haunt you.

When you're having a simple conversation with a close female friend,
 
"Nice guys DON'T finish last.
They LAST to the finish." 
 
If a girl passes you up because she wants to date a GUY
that her girlfriends think is cuter, then it's HER LOSS.
 
DON'T rush into random relationships in hopes of eventually finding
the right person! BE PATIENT. Let God write your love story.

See. I don't know about you, but I'd rather have a LOVE STORY filled
with twists and turns, than a bunch of failed relationships full of
MISTAKES, LIES, and DECEIT!
 
So...
SLOW DOWN people.
Let Go and Let God!
 
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MY ADVICE: "Don't date someone unless you consider marrying them." 
 
"WHAT?!? BeeJay!!!
Have you lost your mind??" 
 
Let's sit and think about it. When you date someone, YOU might think it's
"just for fun," but there's no way of predicting FEELINGS that might
eventually grow. What if you FALL for someone, and they don't fall
for you? Who gets hurt? 
 
What if you date someone for fun, sex, and scamming,
and they end up falling for you? Now they're the one who gets hurt? 
 
In other words,
make sure you choose carefully who you date because FEELINGS
are involved. If you play with feelings, you can REALLY hurt someone.
In fact, some of you are STILL hurt because of a few people you've dated.
So take dating seriously. PLEASE. 
 
MY ADVICE: Don't "play" hard to get. BE hard to get! 
 
Having a great "LOVE LIFE"
means MORE than finding the right person.
You also have to BE the right person! 
 
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Sex is good. Real good. Even God said it was good!
BUT there is one condition: GET MARRIED FIRST. 
 
BEFORE you label me old fashioned or boring, here are a few
statistics I've learned from psychology and science journals! 
 
Teens and young adults
who have premarital sex
are FAR more likely to: 
 
Get divorced
Become suicidal 
Go into depression
Be unfaithful during marriage
 Have severe marital problems 
 
Teens and young adults who
get pregnant before marriage
are FAR more likely to: 
 
Not finish college
Have an abortion
Go into poverty 
 
These statistics are NOT meant to discourage you.
These statistics are here to HELP YOU understand that
ALTHOUGH GOD CAN HEAL ALL WOUNDS,
HE WON'T HEAL ALL SCARS.

God allows SCARS to remain NOT because he hates you,
BUT to remind you that foolish actions DO have consequences. 

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SEX IS LIKE DUCT TAPE. 
 
The first time you stick duct tape on someone, it REALLY sticks.
The next time you do it, it's not as sticky. The more you do it, the
less sticky it becomes. In other words, the more sex you have with
different partners, the HARDER it is to commit. Eventually, you won't
even be able to feel any LOVE or PASSION towards your partner(s).
It will become an empty, emotionless act. 
 
What is the REASON for sex?
Some of you will say "pleasure." 

But is that it? How about eating? EATING feels pleasurable?
Is that the REASON we eat? NO. We eat because it helps sustain
life and health. Likewise, we must understand that sex is not just
for pleasure. Sex also CREATES LIFE. This is why sex is
considered so sacred. This is why sex is NOT to be abused.
 
FUN FACT: Of all our bodily functions
(digesting, sleeping, breathing, etc),
CREATING A CHILD is the only bodily
function that requires TWO people. 

 
CHRISTINA AGUILERA QUOTE: 
"Shouldn't we test drive the 'vehicle' before we drive it off the lot?"
 (Christina comparing premarital sex to test driving a car) 
 
Okay. Let's pretend you find a great "sex partner."
You decide to marry them, BUT one day, they get
into a terrible accident and they can no longer
have sex. Would you divorce them? 

JEFF FOXWORTHY QUOTE:
"Getting married to have sex is like buying a 747 to get free peanuts!" 

 
Marriage is about more than just sex. It is a commitment to be there
for your spouse through sickness and in health, for better or for worse,
till death do you part. It is the coming of two souls to become one. 

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OLD MESSAGE FROM A FRIEND

Hey BeeJay! I'd like to share these verses
recited at my Wedding ceremony:

"My husband and I knew we were ready for the
commitment of marriage when we were BOTH
able to insert each of our names
in place of the word 'LOVE'.
 
Love is patient and kind. 

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. 

Love does not demand its own way. 

Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.

Love is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, 

And endures through every circumstance. Love will last forever..." 

--1 CORINTHIANS 13:4-8 

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